Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies with Mrs Savage Angel

Welcome back to my blog series Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies. This week we’re chatting to Lisa from Mrs Savage Angel.

Tell me a bit about you, your blog and your family.

I have been writing over at mrssavageangel.com for nearly three years. I’m a stay at home mama to my 4 year old son Oscar. I live with Oscar and my husband Ben in leafy Surrey. I write about parenting, Oscar’s Autism diagnosis and weight loss.

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What one essential item would you insist on putting in your hospital bag (for you)?

My hospital bag was a bit different to most people’s because I was taken in for a week before I had Oscar. So the overnight bag I had so diligently packed wasn’t much use. However, I did have Ben bring my pillow from home into the hospital and it’s the one thing I wouldn’t have been without. I hardly slept in the week before Oscar was born, but at least I got to rest on something comfortable. I even had it in the delivery suite with me (although not in theatre obviously).

Was there anything unexpected that happened during labour, that you think first-time mums should be prepared for?

Everything. Seriously you can plan and prep as much as you like (and I wrote the most detailed birthing plan) and I would encourage any first time mother to be informed but seriously you have to be prepared for anything to happen. It would be lovely if we could all have drug free, natural, stress free births and there is certain pressure out there to achieve that. But really, if you are able to give birth safely (for you both), does it really matter how it happens?

Nope!

What would be your one essential product for a newborn that no new parent should live without?

I thought we were so well prepared before Oscar was born, but actually we bought most of our essential items after he was born as and when we needed them. I never went in for slings and such, although I don’t know why and I always wish we’d tried them. But to be honest I struggled having him on me all the time (turned out I wasn’t as ‘earth mother’ as I’d hoped) and so for us having a baby bouncer chair, that laid completely flat (and later could be sat up) was a gift. However, really for me, a decent buggy was my most used item. I had the Mothercare My3 and the Maxi Cosi car seat that could clip on to it. It wasn’t the most expensive travel system, but I loved that it was so flexible!

We took a lot of care over choosing our travel system, and I’m so pleased we did!

What’s the best piece of advice you were given before your first child was born?

The best piece of advice I got just after he was born actually. An older friend with grown up daughters told me just to sit and enjoy holding him. Because once he started moving that would be it. I heeded her advice as much as I could and she was so right. I had no idea my son would be on the move by 16 weeks, so I’m forever grateful for those few weeks of sitting still.

What’s the worst piece of advice you were given?

Sleep when the baby sleeps! No one who gives that advice either has children or remembers what it was like to have a new baby. It’s nigh on impossible. When are you meant to do things like sterilise bottles (Oscar never latched on and I bottle fed from the beginning)? Also I found I would try and sleep while he napped, but that I’d just have dropped off, when he’d wake up, meaning I’d be jolted from sleep, leaving me feeling queasy and sometimes even angry. So eventually I stopped trying.

It’s quite similar to being told to get lots of sleep before baby comes. Do people not realise how uncomfortable it is being heavily pregnant?!

What would be your top tip for a first time parent-to-be?

I know you won’t believe this, but my top tip would be to enjoy your baby while they are super portable. Go out and about as much as you can, because once they start being mobile it is 100 times harder to get stuff done. Pack up a bag and just go!

Noted!

What’s the hardest thing about being a new parent?

The lack of sleep obviously makes everything so much more difficult to cope with, but really I think the hardest thing, particularly about being a new mother, is giving up your independence. Being wholly responsible for the life of another person, 24/7, is harder than I ever imagined it would be. Give yourself time to adjust and never once think anyone else is doing motherhood better than you. They’re not!

What’s the best thing about being a new parent?

Do you know what, I was going to say how lovely everyone is to you, because everyone loves a new baby, but actually one of the best things I found about being a new parent, was how honest you become. You will be so tired the filters come down and actually that’s incredibly liberating. You no longer have the energy or the desire to put up with other people’s nonsense. And that is a magical feeling.   Oh and how amazing you find your tiny baby. Watching him and kissing him were just the best!

Thanks, Lisa, for some great advice! You can find Lisa over on her blog, Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

If you’d like to take part in my Meet the Parents series, please email me at jules@ponderingparenthood.com.

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Heatwave stress and a hospital visit

I know I’m being a typical Brit in moaning about the hot weather, but I genuinely prefer it when the temperature averages 21 degrees. My dislike of hot weather has only been amplified by having a newborn. I mean, I know heatwaves are generally uncomfortable for everyone but I didn’t realise how downright stressful it would be. 

My health visitor had warned me about Little M overheating and the fact that it can increase risk of SIDS. Honestly I know she has to keep me informed so I make good choices but when I hear words like that it just turns me into a paranoid mess. And we had this conversation before the hot weather kicked in…

Added to this, Hubby hasn’t been very well this past week. He’s a teacher too and I’d been longing for the holidays to start to allow me a little more sleep as he could take on a little more of the baby duties. I was actually bereft on Thursday, the first day of the holidays, when he was completely useless due to the peak of a horrid gastro bug he’d picked up. 

Anyway, last night the worlds of overheating fear and gastroenteritis combined as Little M produced three of the fullest, foulest-smelling nappies we’ve ever experienced. When she produced them it actually sounded like a drain emptying into her nappy. I wasn’t concerned at first as the nurse told me to expect ‘funny’ nappies for a few weeks after the immunisations Little M had last week. 

But hubby got me convinced that Little M caught his bug and as I sat on the sofa with her doing the night shift, I started to worry about how hot and clammy she felt, couldn’t work the bloody in ear thermometer properly and couldn’t face the thought of putting her down and falling asleep myself. I mean, the worst just isn’t worth contemplating. 

So I phoned 111 for reassurance. I should learn, really, as every time I’ve phoned anywhere for reassurance, even back in my pregnancy, I’ve ended up not being reassured at all. Hence how we came to be in our local community hospital at 1am waiting to see the out of hours doctor. 

Of course by the time we’d got there Little M was feeling less hot and much more herself. The doctor wasn’t concerned so off we went back home, hubby and I the worse for wear for even less sleep than usual and Little M completely oblivious to the whole thing. 

This hot weather is just too stressful! I don’t want to wish away the summer holiday with hubby so instead I’ll wish for an unseasonably cool August. Sorry!

The Uppababy Vista – Tried and Tested

I’ve written before about how we came to choose the Uppababy Vista as our travel system, and just before Little M came along I unboxed it all and wrote about my first impressions. However, we’ve been properly using it for almost two months now (seriously, where did that go?!) so I thought it was about time I shared my feelings about it eight weeks on, because you never really know how good something is until you use it, do you?

Our absolute favourite feature is the basket. It’s huge. Absolutely massive. We have yet to fill it and have had lots of comments about it.

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Another invaluable feature, especially in this hot weather, is the sun shade. It’s so handy to just pull out, and no faffing around moving umbrellas or shades whenever we change direction. I love knowing with confidence that Little M is protected from the sun.

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We also love how high up the Uppababy Vista is. It has an adjustable handle but we have it permanently in the highest position. This means that we can stand up nice and straight when we push it, which is good for our backs, and, when folded, the base will stand up nicely before being lifted into the car.

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The only downside (because nothing is ever perfect) is the lack of suspension. Fortunately we live on a new estate so all of the pavements here are lovely and smooth and it’s not a problem, but if we go off-road or onto a cobbled surface, poor Little M gets jolted about like nobody’s business. Having said that, we went to the park earlier and she was smiling away as we bumped along the path, so she clearly doesn’t find it a problem!

We always get lots of compliments on our Uppababy Vista and I have no regrets over choosing it. It looks great and, on the whole, has great functionality. I’d definitely recommend it.

Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies with Lamb and Bear

Welcome back to my blog series Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies. This week we’re chatting to Alex, who blogs over at Lamb and Bear.

Tell me a bit about you, your blog and your family.

My name is Alex, I’m 29 and live with my family in Essex. I’ve been writing my blog, Lamb & Bear, for over 2 years and have seen it grow lots over the last 6 months. I’m married to my husband Joe, who I’ve been in a relationship with for 10 years (married for 1 year). We have a year 3 old son and our second son is due on 15th May! Depending on when this post is published, he may already be here!

He certainly is, and he’s gorgeous! xx

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What one essential item would you insist on putting in your hospital bag (for you)?

For me it would be nipple shields. My first son struggled to latch and I spent 2 days trying everything until a midwife suggested shields. He latched on them straight away! So they are packed in my bag in case it happens again with baby number 2. I want feeding to be as stress free as possible.

Was there anything unexpected that happened during labour, that you think first-time mums should be prepared for?

I got into hospital having very strong and regular contractions, but I was only 1cm. They tried to send us home but my Husband refused. 2 hours later I was 7cm and I saw shock on the midwives face when she realised. I would say to first time mums, trust your instincts, we trusted ours and if we hadn’t I would have given birth at home!

Wow, good work and well done to your husband for standing your ground with you!

What would be your one essential product for a newborn that no new parent should live without?

My son was a very sicky baby, so I had a stash of muslin cloths near by at all times. I couldn’t live without them!

These have come up a lot so they really must be essential!

What’s the best piece of advice you were given before your first child was born?

I suppose it would be the same as what I would tell a new mum. Trust your instinct. A mothers intuition is a powerful thing and you’d be surprised how well you know yourself and your baby. Don’t be afraid to call someone if you are concerned about something.

What’s the worst piece of advice you were given?

I really can’t remember any bad advice, but when people say, “baby will come when they are ready” I want to poke them in the eye!! Never say that to a heavily pregnant woman.

What would be your top tip for a first time parent-to-be?

Don’t go crazy on newborn clothes. You have no idea what size baby will be. Start buying 0-3 if you want to be prepared, and have a couple of newborn bits. There’s always going to be a 24 hour supermarket nearby where you can grab extra bits.

But tiny clothes are so cute…

What’s the hardest thing about being a new parent?

Sleep deprivation is a killer. It can really cloud your thoughts and make things seem worse than they are. Having that tiny human with you 24/7 can be overwhelming. Ask for help if you need it.

What’s the best thing about being a new parent?

Newborn cuddles, of course 🙂

Thank you, Alex! You can find Alex over on her blog, Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

If you’d like to take part in my Meet the Parents series, please email me at jules@ponderingparenthood.com.

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Immunisations at eight weeks

It’s 3am and I’m up with Little M and all I can think about is what’s happening later today. Today Little M is a whole eight weeks old (where did that go?!) and in around eight hours she’ll be having her first set of immunisations.

I’m sitting here reading the letter that I received last week that reminds me to book an appointment and details the vaccines included in this round of immunisations:

Diphtheria 

Haemophilus Influenza Type B

Whooping Cough

Pneumococcal Infection

Polio

Tetanus 

Rotavirus

Meningitis B

Gosh. There must be an awful lot of chemicals in that little syringe. I hate the thought of them all flowing around in her perfect little body.

Having said that, a quick google of that (not so) little list and you soon realise that the alternative to the vaccines does not bear thinking about. Don’t worry, I’m not about to become an anti-vaxxer any time soon. She needs to have the immunisation and I will get over it!
If I’m honest, I’m actually more worried about the aftermath. The meningitis B vaccine can apparently cause a fever. Selfishly, I’m worrying about how on earth I’m going to deal with Little M when she’s got that going on, on top of the usual feeding-changing-sterilising-expressing cycle that is our daily lives. And in this heat, which sent her completely out of kilter yesterday, too.

But I’m armed with calpol (which of course I’ve read all about dosage etc etc but will still be quadruple checking with the nurse at the surgery!) so hopefully the effects will be minimal. It’s just that fear of the unknown thing, you know?

I’ll let you know how we get on, once we’ve come out the other side!

How did your little one get on with their eight week immunisations? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

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BABYBJÖRN Bouncer Review

When we were preparing for Little M’s arrival we knew that we wanted a bouncer chair but I was concerned that most chairs on the market were so brightly coloured and, frankly, garish and I had it in my head that our baby would be over-stimulated leading to all sorts of behaviour problems later on. It should be noted that I have no evidence whatsover for this – call it pregnancy logic! In fact we have recently ordered a very brightly coloured (some might say garish!) play mat and activity gym as we’re not concerned Little M doesn’t have enough stimulation!

Anyway, we visited the Baby Show in London and it was there that we came across the BABYBJÖRN Bouncer. We particularly liked it because it was neutrally coloured (which meant that, in addition to the above, it matched our living room decor!) and, unusually, could be used up until the age of two. Yes, that’s right. Not two months. Two years! Rather cleverly the fabric seat can be turned around once the baby has learned to sit up without help, creating a comfy chair. Genius! The price tag is expensive but this longevity of design makes it seem like better value for money than other bouncer chairs on the market.

The other thing I like about it is that the cover is machine washable at 40º. This proved invaluable when LIttle M vomited all over it the first time I sat her in it. (Note to self: wait a bit longer after a feed next time. This parenting lark is a steep learning curve, isn’t it?!) The fabric is really soft and comfortable and looks as though it supports Little M really well.

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The BABYBJÖRN Bouncer is plain, but there is a range of accessories that you can buy, which fix to the bouncer for the baby to play with. (I particularly like this ‘Googly Eyes’ one). Now that Little M is becoming more alert and prepared to sit in the bouncer for more than two minutes at a time, we’ll probably invest in one of these.

One of the things I especially like is that the people at BABYBJÖRN have clearly thought about this product. In addition to the features listed above, the bouncer also folds flat for easy transportation. In fact, hubby is intending to take it round to his parents when he visits later, and is planning to stow it in the enormous basket of out Uppababy Vista pram when he walks round there.

We’re really pleased with our BABYBJÖRN Bouncer purchase and are really looking forward to seeing how Little M enjoys all the different features of it as she grows.

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Disclaimer: This post is not sponsored; we paid for the BABYBJÖRN Bouncer ourselves.

Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies with What the Redhead Said

Welcome back to my blog series Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies. This week we’re chatting to Donna from What the Redhead Said.

Tell me a bit about you, your blog and your family.

I’m Donna and I blog over at What the Redhead said, sharing everything about family life and days out as well as recipes, reviews and giveaways. It’s a bit of an eclectic mix but mainly focuses on our family – Myself, my husband David and two children – Athena who’s four and Troy who will soon be turning three.

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What one essential item would you insist on putting in your hospital bag (for you)?

I had home births with both children so packed hospital bags ‘just in case’. For me the main thing was snack bars as a little extra energy boost and wet wipes. You can never have too many wet wipes, especially just after having a baby!

Was there anything unexpected that happened during labour, that you think first-time mums should be prepared for?

Both labours for me were quite text book although with Troy he entered the world so quickly that his lungs didn’t have time to clear of fluid and we had to transfer to hospital and stay for a few days in case he had an infection.  This is quite common with quick deliveries but not something I was aware of before at all.

What would be your one essential product for a newborn that no new parent should live without?

I think babies don’t really need much at all – but for me the one essential product was muslins. You can never have too many and they can used for so many things – burp cloths, a temporary sun shade or make shift sun hat, a bib, a blanket… They are so versatile and definitely top of my essentials list.

Definitely something to have plenty of!

What’s the best piece of advice you were given before your first child was born?

To listen to all the advice people gave and then to just go with instinct and to find my own way. Some people give great advice and some advice doesn’t work for everyone. Do what works for you.

What’s the worst piece of advice you were given?

To get the baby into a routine as early as possible. With breastfed babies this just isn’t really possible and it worked better for us to just roll with it and be baby led as much as possible. We fed them when they were hungry, changed them when they needed a change and let them sleep when they were tired. It worked for us.

I think the responding to needs approach is appropriate for all babies regardless of how they’re fed.

What would be your top tip for a first time parent-to-be?

Savour it. The early days are a balance of so much emotion and tiredness as well as hard work and such a massive change to your life. But they go by in a blink of an eye. Days will be long and hard but the years will go by so fast. Take in each day, appreciate it and make the most of it. Before you know it you’ll have a toddler running around.

What’s the hardest thing about being a new parent?

For me the hardest thing was friends not accepting your new life. Friends still wanting to go out on all day shopping trips or clubbing when you have only just had a baby. The good friends will be the ones that come and have tea and cake, that will invite you to a coffee shop, to their house or for a picnic in a park. The others – that still have the same expectations – will probably not be in your life for very long. Having babies really makes you realise who your best friends are.

Fortunately my clubbing days are long gone so I’m not sure any friends will be expecting me to have those sorts of trips out anyway!

What’s the best thing about being a new parent?

Everything. The love that you didn’t know existed until your baby was born. That new baby smell. Knowing that you can function on so little sleep and the new purpose that being a parent gives your whole life. Being a parent is amazing and being a parent for the first time is incredible. A rollercoaster of emotions but a time that I would love to have back to experience all over again.

Thank you, Donna! You can find Donna over on her blog, Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

If you’d like to take part in my Meet the Parents series, please email me at jules@ponderingparenthood.com.

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The First Six Weeks of Motherhood

I wrote about my particularly rocky first week of motherhood here, and found it really cathartic. It was so great to hear from other mums who had been through similar experiences or just wanted to offer a few words of support – so thank you to those of you who reached out. There are two things, though, that people said to me that have stuck in my mind from that first week.

Firstly, I was told more than once that the first six weeks are the hardest, and that after that, it gets easier (apart from one person who told me that it never gets any easier; thanks for that!). And secondly, a very good friend told me that I just need to remember that everything is temporary. I won’t be in attempting-to-latch hell or living a not-sleeping-for-more-than-forty-minutes-at-a-time  existence forever.

Well, Little M is seven weeks old today. I’m sorry, where did that time go?! I know I was told to enjoy it because it goes so quickly but my word, it really has! So I thought I’d reflect on the first six weeks (I know, pedants, I’m a week late, I’m sorry!) and see if those people in the second paragraph were telling the truth or not.

Do you know, I think they were? I wouldn’t describe life as easy right now, but it’s certainly easier. The days of stressing over whether or not Little M was taking enough milk, waking her every three hours to feed and recording every feed and nappy contents are over. She’s putting on weight as she should be and we work to her schedule. Obviously this is still not amazing; I still spend swathes of the night awake when every ounce of my being is willing me to be asleep, but Little M occasionally treats us to a five-hour stretch which sometimes falls across the early hours, which helps no end!

I’m still expressing all of Little M’s feeds; I’m proud to say that she’s still been exclusively fed my breast milk since birth. I feel like I’ve settled into expressing now and no longer find it quite such a chore, possibly because I’m not having to do it quite so frequently and am more rested than the early days. I’m fortunate that I’m able to keep up with Little M’s demands although there have been times where the amount of milk I’ve been able to pump in a session has reduced and I’ve had a minor panic that the move to formula might be thrust upon me! Fortunately though I’ve been able to rectify the drop in production by upping the frequency of expressing slightly for 24 hours.

I think another thing that makes it all a bit easier is watching how Little M is changing and growing. She’s started to smile more and more which is just lovely and spends more time alert and awake, making eye contact. As my NCT friend put it, ‘you’re getting some love back’. Those little fleeting smiles really do make all the difference.

Today hubby collected a photo album I’d had made for him for father’s day from the sorting office (I know, Father’s day was ages ago but the sorting office is on the other side of the city!). I’d put together all of the photos we’d taken from Little M’s birth up to her being four weeks old. We both got a bit emotional looking at it and hubby really summed up how we’re feeling now with these words:

We’re actually doing it. We’re raising a human.

Yes, yes we are. And it’s great x

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Emma-Jane Next Generation Maternity/Nursing Bra Review

This week I have been trying out the Emma-Jane Next Generation Maternity/Nursing Bra.

I suppose I don’t really use a nursing bra in quite the same way as someone who is feeding their baby from the breast, so I can’t comment on ease of feeding in this bra. However, I do still unclip my bra for access to express using a breast pump, and I’m still looking for a reasonably attractive, comfortable bra.

The first thing I noticed about the Emma-Jane Next Generation Maternity/Nursing Bra is that it looks very similar to my other nursing bras; simple and functional. In fact it reminds me a little bit of a sports bra. That said, I’m still wearing enormous bloomers to protect my c-section scar so I won’t be winning any prizes for ‘most attractive underwear’ anytime soon anyway!

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The Emma-Jane Next Generation Maternity/Nursing Bra is very comfortable and supportive. It unclips and clips back up easily, although I have noticed that the strap part of the bra is quite wide; not a problem for me but you may need to move it out of the way when feeding your baby from the breast. The bra has a super comfy knitted band under the boobs so it doesn’t dig in anywhere. It also has four hook and eye settings so it has plenty of room to adjust it for the perfect fit as your body changes.

At first look, I thought that the fit of the bra wasn’t very good, as it seems to gape a little under the arms. However, the Emma-Jane Next Generation Maternity/Nursing Bra is actually really clever – it comes in one cup size, B-F, and is designed to adjust with your breasts as they change over the course of pregnancy and before and after feeds when breastfeeding.

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Overall, I think the Emma-Jane Next Generation Maternity/Nursing Bra is good value for money. It changes with your body, saving the need to buy multiple bras over time. No, it isn’t the sexiest garment I’ve seen but then I don’t think nursing bras are, generally. And frankly comfort and functionality are far higher on my priorities list at the moment, and the Emma-Jane bra ticks those boxes nicely.

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Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies with Not Just Another Mum

Welcome back to my blog series Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies. This week we’re chatting to Fee from Not Just Another Mum.

Tell me a bit about you, your blog and your family.

I’m Fee a mid thirties Mum to our 2 kids who are 14 & 8 – jeez how did they get so old? I never wanted kids when I was younger – that was always something other people saw in their future but not me. Until I had one that is, if I had my way we’d have 4 by now. Me and their Dad have been hoping for a 3rd for many years but not got very far – it seems I am broken. My blog can be quite random, I have no set blogging schedule and just write when I feel like it. Lately there’s been a few infertility posts, which I write for purely cathartic reasons. Other than that I write about general parenting stuff and toys/books etc.

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What one essential item would you insist on putting in your hospital bag (for you)?

Socks, my feet were absolutely freezing in both of my labours – other than that I’m easy.

Warning for any of you planning to use a tens machine – take spare batteries, mine ran out.

Oh no! I can’t imagine running out of battery was much fun!

Was there anything unexpected that happened during labour, that you think first-time mums should be prepared for?

My labours took forever, you hear about it happening but I never thought that would be me. Also (possibly tmi) when pushing with my son I did a teeny tiny poop. This is apparently perfectly normal – I however was mortified. Ooh also I wanted to use the birthing pool at the hospital, they were both being used. I think you have to be open to your plans changing at any moment.

Haha, you can’t beat an overshare! I’ve heard that it’s perfectly normal too and most women don’t even realise that they’ve done it.

What would be your one essential product for a newborn that no new parent should live without?

Dry shampoo – haha. For me it was my moses basket so I could take them around the house with me while they slept. They had to be in the same room as me or it made me anxious.

What’s the best piece of advice you were given before your first child was born?

I wasn’t really given any that I can remember. I was 21 and I think my family were in denial that I was having a baby. But I would go back and tell myself not to buy so much stuff – so much was totally unnecessary and unused/unworn.

We have borrowed lots of things from friends in an effort to avoid this to some extent!

What’s the worst piece of advice you were given?

Same answer really. Can’t think of anything. Although something my brother said afterwards was ‘You’re breastfeeding? I didn’t think you’d be into all that hippy stuff.’ Never fails to make me laugh.

Haha! Yes, because only hippies breastfeed…

What would be your top tip for a first time parent-to-be?

Trust your instincts, don’t be afraid to ask for help and do be afraid to say no to people. They will all want to come and see you but if you want to sleep/don’t feel like visitors make them wait. Spending time alone with your other half and baby is your right. Also it’s ok not to be gloriously happy all the time, It’s hard work and you’re new at this!

Sage advice. My mother was horrified when I told her that I didn’t want her to visit for the first two weeks (she was allowed to the hospital to meet the baby; I’m not a total monster)!

What’s the hardest thing about being a new parent?

The lack of sleep (obvs) and when you suddenly realise that they are totally dependent on you for everything. And the sore boobs – well you did ask.

What’s the best thing about being a new parent?

The new baby smell – not the nappy smells.

Thanks for that great advice, Fee! You can find Fee over on her blog and on Twitter.

If you’d like to take part in my Meet the Parents series, please email me at jules@ponderingparenthood.com.

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