Flying Solo – The End of Hubby’s Paternity Leave

I’ll be honest, I’m bricking it. Hubby goes back to work today and yesterday I had a complete meltdown on the midwife for a number of reasons but primarily because I’ve got no idea how I’m going to manage this parenting malarkey solo.

Hubby has been brilliant and we’ve been lucky enough for him to have almost three weeks off work. I think he’s almost been too brilliant though; I’ve barely sterilised a thing and not cooked a meal since Little M was born and I’ve convinced myself that I just can’t do it.

I suppose I need to get some perspective though:

  • It’s a Friday so I’ve only got to survive one day and then it’s the weekend and hubby will be with us again.
  • The school hubby works at on a Friday is in the next village so he’s hardly a million miles away if some kind of disaster strikes (which I’m sure it won’t).
  • He works at a school for goodness’ sake. Which means that he can legitimately leave work at 4ish on a Friday if he needs to. (I say legitimately and Friday because anyone who is a teacher knows that it’s very rare to leave before 5pm on any day of the week despite the general population thinking they leave at 3:15pm with the children; and my hubby is usually there at gone six every night – I’m hoping that will change now and he develops more of a work-life balance).
  • It’s not as though hubby works away – he can still cook dinner and give me a break once he gets home. Realistically I’ll be by myself with Little M for about eight hours.
  • I’ve bought enough bottles and pumping sets that I shouldn’t need to sterilise more than a couple of times during the day.
  • Mum texted earlier and is coming round after lunch to help. We’ll see how that goes and if I can actually let her help and get some rest, or whether my inner anxious control freak takes over…

…I’ll let you know on Monday whether we survived!

P.S. I’ve just discovered that hubby has made a packed lunch and left it in the fridge for me so I don’t even have to make myself a sandwich today. Love that man xx

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  1. June 10, 2016 / 12:54 pm

    Oh my goodness, so cute that he made you a packed lunch!!!! What a thoughtful Daddy. Sending lots of love today – I’m sure you’ll surprise yourself with how well you do!

    We’re on Day 5 of my hubby’s paternity leave and he’s left me all day and night in order to do a hog roast (his side business). I’m a little bit miffed I’ll be honest… Especially as he spent a few hours Tuesday night supposedly ‘testing’ the hog roast machine (apart from they didn’t actually test it because they hadn’t got access to something they needed) and then most of the day Wednesday to sort stuff out. So much for him helping out with baby – and he wonders why I get annoyed with him! I am very jealous of your lovely sounding husband and his thoughtfulness!

    • Jules
      June 10, 2016 / 1:23 pm

      Oh no! Have you given your hubby a good talking to? Thinking back to day 5 I’d have had a complete breakdown if hubby had been gone all day! Well done you for getting through it! I do consider myself very lucky – especially as hubby has just phoned to check I’ve eaten said packed lunch! x

  2. June 12, 2016 / 7:15 am

    How sweet of the hubs to make you a packed lunch! Glad you survived! LOL!


  3. June 12, 2016 / 8:53 am

    OMG! I was pooing myself when my hubby’s paternity leave ended, I was so frightened of how to get through an entire day just me and a baby! ha! Now I have two and to be honest it’s kind of easier when he is at work! x x

    • Jules
      June 12, 2016 / 9:03 am

      Haha! I look forward to the easier days to come, then! x

  4. Geraldine Walsh
    June 12, 2016 / 9:39 am

    Oh wow your hubby is awesome! It’s so hard those first few weeks on your own. It’s terrifying it’s exhausting but it passes and you get into a stride and a routine. He one thing that helped me was going out and visiting friends and family, or having people over to hold the baby whike I grabbed a shower. I hope your first day wasn’t too hard. You’ll surprise yourself with how awesome you really are! You’re doing great momma! #TheList

  5. June 13, 2016 / 1:00 pm

    If you ever get fed up with your OH, please send him over! I would absolutely love a packed lunch.
    I’m sure you will be absolutely fine but i do remember that feeling of helplessness being completely responsible for such a vulnerable baby. Was convinced something terrible would happen. Just a confidence thing and by your 4th you’ll be fine 😉 Jo x

    • Jules
      June 13, 2016 / 1:05 pm

      Haha I’m possibly open to a second but not sure I’ll have 4!! xx

  6. June 14, 2016 / 1:15 am

    Your husband sounds amazing! What a lovely and supportive Mr you have. The end of paternity leave is a scary time, but I am sure you will surprise yourself. Dont put pressure on yourself to worry about the house or anything else except you and Little M for the first few days/weeks. It takes time to figure out some type of routine (I use that word very loosely!), but basically I mean figure out how you’ll shower with a baby, make lunch, get dressed etc.. Once you have that cracked then its all about figuring out how to do the day to day stuff like leave the house which is a whole other challenge to figure out. So its definitely about taking baby steps and each day as it comes for a while 🙂 Emily

  7. June 14, 2016 / 9:59 am

    Oh so cute he left you a packed lunch! I remember last time finding him going back to work tough, as suddenly I had to do EVERYTHING myself!! This time he’s only planning to take a week but hopefully I will be more relaxed/experienced second time around :0 #KCACOLS

    • Jules
      June 14, 2016 / 10:16 am

      It really hasn’t been as bad as I thought – although I am yet to leave the house alone with M! I did manage a shower yesterday though, which is progress!

  8. June 14, 2016 / 1:41 pm

    Oh I know how you feel. When my husband went back to work that first day was hard. The day after that was easier and it just got better after a while. The hardest thing for me was when he had to go away over night when baby was 4 weeks old. I never slept all night! It will get better for you. xx

    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

    Rachel xx

    • Jules
      June 14, 2016 / 1:51 pm

      Thanks! Yes I’m looking forward to the day I manage to get washed, dressed and leave the house!! x

  9. June 18, 2016 / 12:14 pm

    Aww bless on the packed lunch love that! I reckon you will be shocked at what you manage to do on your own when he’s at work and your mum helping will be good for you #kcacols

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