Welcome back to my blog series Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies. This week we’re chatting to Alex, who blogs over at Lamb and Bear.
Tell me a bit about you, your blog and your family.
My name is Alex, I’m 29 and live with my family in Essex. I’ve been writing my blog, Lamb & Bear, for over 2 years and have seen it grow lots over the last 6 months. I’m married to my husband Joe, who I’ve been in a relationship with for 10 years (married for 1 year). We have a year 3 old son and our second son is due on 15th May! Depending on when this post is published, he may already be here!
He certainly is, and he’s gorgeous! xx
What one essential item would you insist on putting in your hospital bag (for you)?
For me it would be nipple shields. My first son struggled to latch and I spent 2 days trying everything until a midwife suggested shields. He latched on them straight away! So they are packed in my bag in case it happens again with baby number 2. I want feeding to be as stress free as possible.
Was there anything unexpected that happened during labour, that you think first-time mums should be prepared for?
I got into hospital having very strong and regular contractions, but I was only 1cm. They tried to send us home but my Husband refused. 2 hours later I was 7cm and I saw shock on the midwives face when she realised. I would say to first time mums, trust your instincts, we trusted ours and if we hadn’t I would have given birth at home!
Wow, good work and well done to your husband for standing your ground with you!
What would be your one essential product for a newborn that no new parent should live without?
My son was a very sicky baby, so I had a stash of muslin cloths near by at all times. I couldn’t live without them!
These have come up a lot so they really must be essential!
What’s the best piece of advice you were given before your first child was born?
I suppose it would be the same as what I would tell a new mum. Trust your instinct. A mothers intuition is a powerful thing and you’d be surprised how well you know yourself and your baby. Don’t be afraid to call someone if you are concerned about something.
What’s the worst piece of advice you were given?
I really can’t remember any bad advice, but when people say, “baby will come when they are ready” I want to poke them in the eye!! Never say that to a heavily pregnant woman.
What would be your top tip for a first time parent-to-be?
Don’t go crazy on newborn clothes. You have no idea what size baby will be. Start buying 0-3 if you want to be prepared, and have a couple of newborn bits. There’s always going to be a 24 hour supermarket nearby where you can grab extra bits.
But tiny clothes are so cute…
What’s the hardest thing about being a new parent?
Sleep deprivation is a killer. It can really cloud your thoughts and make things seem worse than they are. Having that tiny human with you 24/7 can be overwhelming. Ask for help if you need it.
What’s the best thing about being a new parent?
Newborn cuddles, of course 🙂
If you’d like to take part in my Meet the Parents series, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.