Newborn essentials – the difference between men and women

Hub and I took a long-anticipated trip to Kiddicare yesterday. I’ll write about that more in another post but it was something he said the night before that got me thinking: what are the essential items that we need for a newborn?

This pondering was brought about by hub declaring that surely we only needed to look at pushchairs in Kiddicare? We’ve already purchased a bedside crib, what more could we possibly need?!

Cue a slight meltdown from me as I saw all of my baby shopping dreams turn to dust. What could he mean?! Surely we have loads of things we need to get, immediately, if we ever want to stand a chance of being ready for baby’s arrival. I mean due date is just under sixteen weeks away now! (Sixteen? Oh. Maybe I am overreacting just a little bit.)

So I did what any rational person would do and turned to Twitter. I thought I’d be clever about it and ask the dads, because hubby couldn’t possibly argue with their man wisdom, right?

Except their wisdom wasn’t quite what I was hoping to hear. Phrases like ‘newborn babies really don’t need as much stuff as you think’ and ‘just a few bits are enough to start, you can buy other things as you need them’ floated across the Twittersphere to my sulky ears.  Humph.

Anyway, I then thought of my female friends’ suggestions of what I’d need and really, the answers weren’t much different. I think the difference is that women (If they’re like me, anyway) like to have everything ready in advance of baby’s arrival whereas men (and hub seems to be at the slightly more extreme end of this spectrum) are happy for baby to arrive and see what’s needed (I could feel palpitations forming just at the writing of those words!)

Generally though, everyone seems to agree on the following as baby essentials:

  • Something for the baby to sleep in. Whether you choose a Moses basket or a bedside crib, the baby will need something to sleep in. Personally, we’ve chosen a Snuzpod as we’ve heard such great things about them.
  • A pram. We’re still researching our options on this one; I’ll let you know our frontrunners and our final choice in a later post!
  • Car seat. Must work with the above. Obviously only necessary if you own a car!
  • A sling/baby carrier. This might only be for you if you like the idea of babywearing. I do, but like the look of the cloth slings rather than things with lots of clips and buckles. Something we need to look into further!
  • Thermometer. We live in a new build house which seems to be incredibly well insulated – great for our bills (and for me, I’m always cold!) but when our friend’s little boy visits he always goes bright red and grizzly and we look on whimpering, “the heating’s not on, honestly” as his parents frantically peel layers off him! Hence, we’ve been worrying about how to monitor the temperature of the nursery. We were lucky enough to be sent a Gro Egg and love it – I particularly like that you can just clock the colour of the night light rather than having to read the temperature – it will help me to notice changes that might affect baby.
  • Muslins. I get the impression that however many you have of these, it’s not enough!
  • Sleep suits/baby grows. But how are you supposed to know what size?!
  • Nappies. Same sentiments as baby grows apply! How do new parents learn this stuff?! Plus there’s the whole disposable/cloth debate. I think I’ll save that one for another time…

Is there anything I’ve missed? Please help me if there is (can you tell I don’t want to be unprepared?!). What are your newborn baby essentials?

Newborn Essentials

Disclaimer: The Gro Company were kind enough to send me a Gro Egg, however all opinions are my own. 

Thank you to @TheDadhe, @The_dadventurer, @twopointfourdad, @becb1984, @mummyadventure, @emilyvaughanx and @chellemccann for your much-valued advice on this!

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15 Comments

  1. February 17, 2016 / 11:52 am

    16 weeks to go is not too early to be prepared, it is never too early! Muslin cloths are a definite must, just buy hundreds. People will say don’t bother with a baby bath, they are actually right but I still loved mine as we could carry it into the sitting room which is warmer than our bathroom and now he is bigger it has been turned into a makeshift sand pit in the garden! My other half was actually worse then me, he found a list of essentials on an app for his phone and wouldn’t rest until everything was ticked off, he was a proper worrier whilst I was pregnant, but it made for a nice pre baby shopping trip.

    • Jules
      February 17, 2016 / 11:56 am

      A friend has said we can have their baby bath so we won’t need to buy one – but I like your clever upcycling idea! On further discussion it seems hub is worried about buying things to early in case we ‘jinx’ things – he’s one for superstition! Hopefully he’ll get over that soon!

  2. Kel
    February 17, 2016 / 7:45 pm

    So exciting, getting everything ready and so surreal looking at it all thinking that your child will be in it soon..
    Monitor? Something like a beanbad to put baby on/in when not sleeping? Lily loves hers. You can prop them up, fully supported so they can have a look around. Esp useful if you want to do a quick job like peel some veg or put the clothes on the airer. Baby nail clippers? Thermometer to check temperature? We have one that goes in the ear and is digital, bit pricier but makes me feel reassured! Xx

    • Jules
      February 17, 2016 / 7:47 pm

      I saw the in ear thermometers today and thought we might need one, and I did think of Lily’s bean bag! What brand is it/where did you get it from? xx

  3. Kel
    February 17, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    Just google beanbag planet. They are £30. We hadn’t considered one but in-laws got it for us. It has proved invaluable for us. Xx

  4. February 17, 2016 / 9:41 pm

    Everything you’ve listed sounds good! I would also say a bouncy chair or playmat – you won’t need them straight away but you’d be surprised how quickly they start wanting to play with things or look at stuff, and it’s also a handy place to pop them when you need to cook/go to the loo etc! You can get little sets with nail clippers, thermometers etc all in. #BloggerClubUK

    • Jules
      February 17, 2016 / 10:06 pm

      Thank you for your advice, I will add those things to the list! x

  5. Rosie
    February 18, 2016 / 10:53 pm

    Bath thermometer and bath seat. Not strictly essential, but make life a lot easier. First time around I bought a baby bath and found it a back-breaking nightmare. For the second we got an Angelcare bath support instead and it was brilliant – used it from first bath until about 6 months and made bathing a doddle 🙂

    Also, quick recommendation for the Nipper Clipper nail clippers – really good.

    I am much more like you in mindset and prefer to be prepared. I always argued that shopping would be the last thing we’d be wanting to do when the babies arrived!

    • Jules
      February 18, 2016 / 10:55 pm

      That’s exactly how I feel! Can’t imagine shopping and making decisions on these things when sleep deprived and with a baby in tow! Thanks for your suggestions!

  6. The Pramshed
    February 20, 2016 / 11:55 am

    That is a good list and I must admit I was slightly obsessed with having everything ready and prepared for my daughters arrival. Like you I didn’t know what size to buy so we had loads of John Lewis and Mothercare newborn size which fitted a 9lb 4oz baby for about 6 weeks. Wishing you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy. Claire x

    • Jules
      February 20, 2016 / 12:17 pm

      I was thinking of buying assorted sizes to satisfy the shopping need but avoid having too many unnecessary purchases! x

  7. February 20, 2016 / 1:17 pm

    I love muslins! It’s so nice to wrap babies up all snug as a bug. I enjoyed your post! Angela from Daysinbed 🙂

    • Jules
      February 20, 2016 / 1:25 pm

      Thank you! I need to find some stylish ones from somewhere!

  8. February 23, 2016 / 11:43 am

    My husband was just the same. My advice is don’t overbuy you can always go out & buy things as needed. Your list sounds great. Do you want a changing table? I started with just a mat which worked well for our first. A little baby bathtub or a sponge – I had a sponge that I put in the sink, it had a cut out for the baby & worked really well. Some newborn bottles & pacifiers, sterilizer, bottle warmer, powder & Sudo cream. If you are breastfeeding you might want something to express with – I used a hand pump for my three. You probably have all of that already but it’s all I can think of! Thanks so much for sharing with #bloggerclubuk x

    • Jules
      February 23, 2016 / 5:48 pm

      We have nothing except a bedside crib and a blanket! Thanks for your advice, much appreciated! x

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