Welcome to my new guest post series, Ponderings on Two, where I ask a different blogger and parent of more than one child, to share their experience of having a second child. This week, we hear from Amy, who writes at The Smallest of Things.
Tell me a bit about yourself, your family and your blog.
Well hello, I am Amy, a youngish Mum to two little girls and fiancee to James. We live in a sleepy village where not much happens but is a lovely place for children to grow up. When I am not working as a Deputy Manager in a Nursery, or creating new adventures with my family, I can occasionally be found over on my blog (www.thesmallestofthings.com). I created my little space on the internet when my eldest baby was only a few months old. I struggled with the loss of identity and it felt like a blog was the way to keep a piece of me! It has now grown to so much more and it is now an outlet for me, when I actually get the time to blog.
What age gap did you have between your first and second children? What’s their relationship like?
My eldest, Little S, 4, was 2 and a half years old when her baby sister came along. I find the 2.5 year age gap a bit of a weird one. At first it felt like the perfect age gap (is there such a thing?) but as Baby L (September 2016) became less of a baby it seemed to get bigger. Then as Baby L turned one it felt smaller again but right now we are back at that point where the age gap seems huge! Little S is 4 and starting school in September and Baby L is turning 2, also in September. Right now they are just at different stages in their lives and it causes lots of arguments, thats for sure.
What was the hardest thing about having a second child?
Now this is a tricky question. I think for me it was, and still is, the trying to divide my time equally between the two of them. At present when I am not at work I have both girls at home with me so its tough trying to get time with them individually. I’m hoping once Little S is at school and my working schedule changes, then I will be able to find the perfect balance between them both.
What was the best thing about having a second child?
Without a doubt, double the love, double the laughs, and double the joy! I also liked how at ease I felt as a parent with my second child. With your first I think it is massive adaptation and all a little bit scary but I just felt prepared and comfortable in my parenting role.
Were there any products that made life with an older sibling and a newborn easier?
Baby wearing! It meant I still had two hands free to be with my eldest too and play dough as it kept my eldest occupied whilst I cared for my youngest!
What’s the best piece of advice you could give someone expecting their second baby?
Just take each day as it comes. Don’t read into all the horror stories. Find a routine that suits your family and just roll with it. If that means once a week or more you stay at home in your pyjamas all day, then do it 🙂
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