Welcome to my new guest post series, Ponderings on Two, where I ask a different blogger and parent of more than one child, to share their experience of having a second child. This week, we hear from Jess, who writes at Beauties and the Bibs.
Tell me a bit about yourself, your family and your blog.
Hi my name is Jess I am a mommy to Ava and Alby. At the moment, I’m on maternity leave so we’re trying to make as many memories as we can whilst I’m off work. My blog is Beauties and the Bibs. I started my blog when Ava was 9 weeks old as very quickly I found being a new parent very lonely. A lot of my friends didn’t have children and were at work all week. I use my blog as a place to share our lives and a way to document all the exciting things we do. So when they are grown up I can show them what we got up to. I also like to talk about life the ups and the downs so that parents out there can feel like they are not alone. Were all in the same boat all our toddlers kick off, Our babies think it’s fun not to sleep. So hopefully someone will feel comfort in the thought that they are not alone.
What age gap did you have between your first and second children? What’s their relationship like?
Ava was born 1/1/2016 and Alby was born 4/12/2017 so just under two years. Gosh it can be hard at times having such a small age gap. Although it is hard they have such a lovely relationship already. Ava likes to look after Alby giving him his bottles and giving him cuddles. Now Alby is on the move he just follows Ava around it’s so adorable.
What was the hardest thing about having a second child?
The guilt that I don’t give him as much one on one time that I did with my first. I constantly feel guilty that we haven’t done as many baby classes, Or had long snuggles on the sofa. As having a toddler as well I don’t have a moment to sit down let alone have a sleepy snuggle.
What was the best thing about having a second child?
That I know whatever happens they will have each other as they grow up. Horrid I know to think about it like that. I have an older brother and I know that if I need anything he will always be there. Like when I was a teenager things I didn’t want to speak to my parents about I could speak to him about.
Already I can see that they have such a lovely bond and I cannot wait to see that blossom over the years.
Were there any products that made life with an older sibling and a newborn easier?
A baby carrier for sure has been the best product. Ava’s at an age where she doesn’t always want to walk. We didn’t want to fork out for an expensive double buggy that may be used a handful of times. So our BabyBjorn baby carrier has been a life saver. Especially when she decides in the middle of town that she cannot possibly walk any more.
What’s the best piece of advice you could give someone expecting their second baby?
Make the most of it! Yes, things may seem hard work and you may be thinking oh I cannot wait till they can do xyz. The thing is they aren’t babies forever and you can never get those days back. So just make the most of it, step back and enjoy your new family.
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