Welcome to my new guest post series, Ponderings on Two, where I ask a different blogger and parent of more than one child, to share their experience of having a second child. This week, we hear from Hayley from Winging it With Two Boys.
Tell me a bit about yourself, your family and your blog.
Hi! My name is Hayley and I am 38, married to Alan who is 37, and we have two boys together, Charlie who is aged four and Rhys who is three.
I am a stay at home mum, I am Chair of the PTA and also a school governor. I started my blog (Winging it With Two Boys) last year, and I’ve just started to learn how to use a sewing machine!
What age gap did you have between your first and second children? What’s their relationship like?
Our eldest was born on 13th September 2013, and our youngest was born on 13th October 2014, and there is exactly a 13 month age gap between them. I would say they are like most kids, one minute they are best friends and the next they arguing over the same toy.
What was the hardest thing about having a second child?
Dealing with arguments/peace keeping. I constantly feel like a negotiator between the two of them, especially over who is having the next turn with whatever the favourite toy is of the moment.
What was the best thing about having a second child?
My eldest will always have a best friend. Between the moments of chaos, they will always tell me that they are friends and that they love each other.
Were there any products that made life with an older sibling and a newborn easier?
Without a doubt a baby bouncer, I could have my youngest in the bouncer being bounced with my foot, whilst I sat and did an activity with my eldest – it really did help with the multitasking.
What’s the best piece of advice you could give someone expecting their second baby?
Buy ear plugs! Once they can both talk to each other, that’s when the never ending arguments start over the smallest of things!